It’s International Women’s Day today. An opportunity to celebrate social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women….that’s what the definition is if you Google it!
A chance to celebrate females.
I don’t know about you, but it took me a long time to be able to celebrate myself – not in a dramatic “look at me aren’t I fabulous” kind of way, no, it took me a long time to figure out who I actually am, what I’m meant to be doing and accepting myself, without making comparisons to so many other people.
We all go through trials and tribulations that shape us, some good, some not so good, we make friends, we break friends, we spend way too much time comparing ourselves and wishing we were something else, when actually, if you stop, put everything down (yes now, go and do it) and go and look at yourself in the mirror, see what most other people see. Someone who’s bloody fabulous.
We are our own worst critics.
Pick up a magazine or look online and we’re still incessantly surrounded by the media and other people telling us what we should look like, what we shouldn’t, what we should wear, what we shouldn’t, how we should act, how we should feel, what we should be doing with our lives. We are still, in 2021, being shown images and following celebrities and aspiring to be something that we won’t be, simply because we aren’t those people.
We’re forgetting that we are actually enough.
I know firsthand that it is entirely possible to change what it is that you don’t like about yourself, after years and years of not liking myself, but you have to do it for you, not for anyone else; not because of what someone says or thinks about you, not because you’ve seen a picture online of what you wish you looked like, not because someone has goaded you into doing it or suggested you’d be silly for even trying.
So whatever it is you want to change or improve about yourself, be brave enough to try. Surround yourself with people who support you, who want you to succeed. If you need help getting there, then just ask, don’t be afraid to ask – I’ve just spent 2 ½ months telling the boy in is home-schooling that if he needs help he has to ask, otherwise you can just sit indefinitely wishing for something without getting there.
You can do whatever it is you want to do. Go shock the hell out of everyone and do it!
My inbox is always open to anyone who needs it. x